I have never returned anything and never will.. just because..
I have never returned anything and never will.. just because..
I'd say this guy definitely lost a debate , not a ring ! Can't remember an important event such as a class ring. Nobody does that. Doesn't remember the park or even owning it. Then " I GUESS I'd like it back ". And then pops wants you to leave it on some random porch....
I've had wayyyyy to many of these kinds of returns. Though I just returned a passport ID last week to a grateful girl (refused a venmo deposit). I'm still sitting on 2 wallets , 1 that is fully loaded , the other...not so much. This , after alot of internet searching , finding them and no response. Jewelry, , phones.....I keep and sell them all now. I have too many horror stories compared to happy endings. Keep it. Keep it. Keep it.
Just making sure.....Keep it !
I know I might seem greedy and such, but I would keep it if he doesn't want it. Just because he mumbled "I guess so" doesn't mean he will take ownership of it, right? Then maybe call him again, ask him if it's his or not, kindly but firmly. Then yes or no, maybe write it down on a paper or something and sign, so it's yours.
Thanks for the input everyone, but this matter is closed.
The guy's father texted me this morning and we met in the Walmart parking lot. He wouldn't even get out of his truck. Before I showed him the ring I asked if he knew anything about the ring. He told me he had no idea what it was or what it looked like. I told him I thought this whole thing was very strange. Here I had found a huge gold ring with his kid's name on it, that neither of them ever remember having or losing. I told him that if I had lost anything like this, even 20 years ago, I would remember and I would certainly be glad to get it back.
Then I said, " you guys don't seem to really even care". And I handed it to him.
He then took a closer look at the inside of the band and said- "Well, it's got my son's name on it, so it must be his. He must have lost it when he was still in high school". I then said, "there you go, you have it back now., Have a good day! He said "Yep, you too". and rolled up his window.
No thank you, no nothing- so I got in my dig rig and left.
This was my first return of any consequence but this experience will not deter me from returning something to it's rightful owner, because it's still the right thing to do. But I have learned a few things.
1. Don't give too much info about what you have found. In this case, I was 100% sure I was talking to the owner of the ring when I contacted him so I was free with information.
2. Don't assume the owner will be excited or grateful to get their item back. The sense of self entitlement has permeated society to the point where gratitude can be the exception, rather than the rule.
3. Once ownership confirmation has been stablished, make the owner put in the effort to claim his stuff. Your contribution to the return process should be your goodwill and nothing else.
Good luck to everyone out there. Hopefully your digs will be fruitful !!
Might as well stick my oar in, if you’re uncomfortable with leaving it on a doorstep. Just leave it with the police without the research you did. Tell the owner that was recommended by a policeman (not me). That way it’s safe and if he’s not willing to go pick up it will be yours legally after the proper waiting time. Just my two cents.
...if he doesn't want it. ...
.... But this took the cake:.....
I have 33 returns and most people were grateful .....
Thanks for the input everyone, but this matter is closed.
The guy's father texted me this morning and we met in the Walmart parking lot. He wouldn't even get out of his truck. Before I showed him the ring I asked if he knew anything about the ring. He told me he had no idea what it was or what it looked like. I told him I thought this whole thing was very strange. Here I had found a huge gold ring with his kid's name on it, that neither of them ever remember having or losing. I told him that if I had lost anything like this, even 20 years ago, I would remember and I would certainly be glad to get it back.
Then I said, " you guys don't seem to really even care". And I handed it to him.
He then took a closer look at the inside of the band and said- "Well, it's got my son's name on it, so it must be his. He must have lost it when he was still in high school". I then said, "there you go, you have it back now., Have a good day! He said "Yep, you too". and rolled up his window.
No thank you, no nothing- so I got in my dig rig and left.
This was my first return of any consequence but this experience will not deter me from returning something to it's rightful owner, because it's still the right thing to do. But I have learned a few things.
1. Don't give too much info about what you have found. In this case, I was 100% sure I was talking to the owner of the ring when I contacted him so I was free with information.
2. Don't assume the owner will be excited or grateful to get their item back. The sense of self entitlement has permeated society to the point where gratitude can be the exception, rather than the rule.
3. Once ownership confirmation has been stablished, make the owner put in the effort to claim his stuff. Your contribution to the return process should be your goodwill and nothing else.
Good luck to everyone out there. Hopefully your digs will be fruitful !!
You may want to read my first post- #9You might want to reread the original post. Then read mine. Wait until you find an iPhone 50 yards out from a pier , buried in 1 foot of sand , in the water. Take 3 days of cleaning it up and finally getting access to the contacts. Reaching the owner and he says he's going to call the police and say you stole the phone. These kinds of things , like the OPs , will wear thin in no time. Regardless of whose name is on anything. I still make a feeble effort on returns. But nowhere near like I used to.